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Healthy Boundaries In A Relationship: 7 Ways To Enforce Your Boundaries

Healthy Boundaries In A Relationship: 7 Ways To Enforce Your Boundaries

Boundaries in a relationship can be a tricky thing.  Depending on the age and strength of the relationship, it can be challenging to figure out exactly how to address where your boundaries are in a way that won’t offend or chase your partner away.  Don’t get me wrong, if your partner can’t respect your boundaries, you need not feel obligated to continue the relationship no matter what role they have played thus far.

If you decide to accept whatever treatment is sent your way despite letting your partner know what you are and aren’t comfortable with, you’ll end up feeling violated, disrespected, and resentful.  This, of course, leads to a whole host of other issues to develop down the line when what’s at the core of it is a lack of respect for mutual boundaries.  An example of that could be something as simple as you letting your partner know you’re uncomfortable when they jokingly tease you about a certain area.  You feel ridiculed because of it.  Now, we are responsible for our own feelings, however, the partner must be responsible for the action that triggered those feelings.

Being able to talk through our vulnerable feelings can be very uncomfortable, even with someone we love and care for.  We’re all afraid of that rejection.  We ask ourselves “what if my partner laughs at me?”, “what if my partner continues doing what I asked them not to? What then?”  Those are valid questions and the answer is very simply this; if your partner cares for you and the relationship you both are building, they will respect your boundaries.  If they are not truly invested in your well-being and what’s best for you, you will see that in their actions as well.  You will see them dismiss your feelings, or continue the very behavior you asked them to stop.  Another common behavior is minimizing your feelings and gaslighting you by saying things like “you’re overreacting” or “you’re taking it too seriously”.

Even if you were overreacting and taking it too seriously, you’re allowed to feel exactly what you feel, and you’re allowed to express it too.  Whether your partner agrees or not, if they care about you, their job is to respect how you feel.  They can explain to you why they may disagree, but to dismiss how you feel is to dismiss the boundaries you have put in place for yourself.  For some people it may be easier than others to stand firm in the boundaries they’ve set, yet for others they may be so used to not having boundaries respected that they just won’t speak up.  This creates a toxic relationship where one partner gets used to taking advantage of and not respecting the other, and the other partner gets used to being disrespected and not valued.  This is a toxic codependent relationship.

There are ways to put healthy boundaries into place.  Here are 10 ways to have healthy boundaries:

  1. Be able to say “no” without feeling guilty or having to explain why you “can’t”.
  2. Be able to ask for what you want and need.
  3. Saying yes because you want to, not out of pressure or obligation.
  4. Being able to express emotions and have disagreements and still feel supported.
  5. Taking responsibility for your own happiness and not feeling responsible for someone else’s happiness.
  6. Ensuring you’re being treated with respect and as an equal in any relationship.
  7. Behave according to your own values and beliefs and make no apologies for it.

These are 7 ways to ensure healthy boundaries are in place.  If these are being violated or not respected by those around you, you need to rethink that relationship and ask yourself if it’s really a relationship that benefits you or not.  You’re worth being respected and being shown that you’re valued.

I’d love to hear how you set healthy boundaries for yourself and the impact it has on your life.  Feel free to comment and share!

 

 

Own Your Own: Why Owning Your Own Platform Can Protect Your Business

Own Your Own: Why Owning Your Own Platform Can Protect Your Business

Recently, the social networks Facebook and Instagram went down.  With it being a holiday weekend (Labor Day weekend), a lot of Entrepreneurs were running sales and specials for their businesses, and many were counting on that income to be able to reach their money goals, which for many were detrimental to business.  Unfortunately, when those platforms went down, those entrepreneurs suffered financially.

Basically, your business is at the mercy of outside social media platforms.  This means if you’ve built your business following solely off of platforms like Facebook and Instagram, all it takes is for you to be locked out of your account, your account deactivated because someone reports you, or the platform to simply go down and you can lose your entire business.  Now, I KNOW you don’t want that!

No one works hard building their business for it to be taken from them overnight through no fault of their own.  What if one of these platforms decided to charge $500 a month? Yes, it is an unrealistic number, but stay with me here.  You would be subject to being stuck paying for the continual access to your client base or stuck losing it all.  That’s a difficult decision, especially when you know how hard you work to make your business a success.

So, how can you prevent this?  I’m glad you asked!  You own your own platform.  How do you this?  Another great question!  Through email subscribers.  When you collect emails, the subscribers are basically telling you they want the information you have to share.  They’re entrusting you with their emails.  When you go to a website and you’re not interested in the content, you’re not going to leave your email right?  Well, it’s the same thing for everyone else.  When they sign up on your site and leave their email address, they’re letting you know they want the content you have to share.

In essence, this is the start of the conversation.  It’s your job to keep the conversation going through regular communication with your subscribers.  Emails are a major source of income if you can use them properly.  If you can actively stay in touch with your email subscribers, it can pay off well for you.  This is a direct line of communication with your client base.  This allows you to send out email blasts, specials, and so much more.  It also allows you to survey your client base and see what challenges they’re having that you may be able to create a product for.  This in itself, can be worth its weight in gold!

When it comes to collecting subscriber emails, the best way to do it would be through an opt-in that people can use or learn something valuable through.  This means your opt-in needs to be something that can be useful when downloaded.  Depending on what your clients’ needs are, you can figure out what will make an ideal downloadable.  Truth be told, there are so many different types to choose from that you can’t go wrong as long as you have it packed with valuable content.

I’ll be covering Content Marketing in a more in-depth post soon, but please believe that even if you’re giving away free content, prospective clients are looking to get value from it.  Of course, you’ll have those that just collect and hoard the information, but they weren’t your ideal client anyway so you didn’t lose anything.  Your prospective clients and customers will be the ones looking to see if they can learn from your content.  If they feel they’re learning from your free content, then they’ll have no problem coming to you for paid content.

20 Entrepreneurs Explain How They Learned about Marketing Their Business

20 Entrepreneurs Explain How They Learned about Marketing Their Business

CEO Blog Nation featured me in an article on 20 Entrepreneurs explaining how they learned to market their business.  Here’s the link to the article.  Check it out! It can you with learning SEO and Marketing for your business.

20 Entrepreneurs Explain How They Learned About Marketing Their Business

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